How to Deal With First Dates

 

           Okay, let’s be honest going out with a guy for the first time is not always fun, it’s actually really nerve wrecking. If you’re friends trying to be a little more it might not be that stressful, but none the less you’re still trying to impress him. In the back of your mind you’re thinking what does he think of me? What if I do something he doesn’t like or approve off, what if this, what if that? I’m I wrong ladies? As a woman we always try to make a good impression on the guy we are interested in. Unfortunately I have no advice on how to calm your nerves, other than just breath and think positively. On another note however I can give you some girlie advice on things you can do before the date and during the date.

1)      The Outfit: Many times women panic because they don’t know what to wear on the date. But let me ask you, why the panic? Word of advice, on first date don’t dress to impress because chances are he’ll think you’re really trying and he has the upper hand, and maybe he does, but you don’t wanna let him know that right of the bat. Dress just as you would usually dress (this is assuming you guys will be going to a casual dinner) and just add a little more make up than usual to give your face more definition and glow.

2)      Conversation: Okay this can be tricky because during the date you’re probably thinking, what should I tell him and what do I want him to know! Don’t over think it too much, guys don’t overthink like we gals do. Since we are specifically talking about first dates it’s good to find out each other’s likes and interest, you don’t want to have a long conversation of what you aspire in the future with someone you’re starting to date, that can be a little freighting to anyone.

3)      The Food: Okay having dinner on first dates is a little awkward, I’ve had conversations with my friends about this, and we all agreed there is some foods a girl should definitely stay away from. Ahhhh, now you’re probably thinking what types of foods? Well let’s see burgers, hot dogs,  sushi ( they are all messy, and can fall apart), and any vegetables that can get stuck in between your teeth or on your teeth.    

4)      Saying Goodbye: Now this all depends on how the overall date went and if you’d like to go out with him again. If you don’t think it’s going to go anywhere with this guy you better be honest, thank him and tell him that at the moment you’re not looking for anything serious and you just want to be friends. If you do in fact realize that this guy is really someone you want to get to know better (and there is a mutual feeling) thank him for the date, tell him you had a great time (but don’t kiss, that’s too soon!) and tell him you look forward to hearing from him soon.

And that is how to deal with a first dates. If it is in fact a guy you are going to go on a date with again, it will only get better, I can promise you that. But always remember this ladies, be yourself always because if a guy happens to be interested in you, make sure he is actually falling for you and not for the person you’re pretending to be (it doesn’t matter how much you like him), always be true to yourself first.