Thursday, August 2, 2012

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. True or False?



Whether you want to believe it or not, there is no denying the longevity and influence of astrology within many cultures. Astrology’s early use, in areas such as Eastern Asia and Europe, focused on predicting the future and providing predictions for what dates would carry the most luck or provide the most favorable outcome.
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With modern day astrology, we tend to equate astrology with horoscopes, compatibility and primary personality traits. Astrology has become a fun and entertaining way of seeing relationships between your personality and how the day/week/month/year will be like and astrology also provides insight into relationships between man and woman, their interaction and potential compatibility.
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            Many of you have most likely heard of the book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, some of you most likely have read this, and for those of you who haven’t, it’s ok! J Basically, this book discusses the fundamental differences between the genders and that gender can be understood in terms of distinct ways they respond to stress and stressful situations.
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            So just for fun, lets take a look at some of the highlights of this book and the differentiation between men and women:
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·         Men and Women keep “points” of their actions and actions of their significant other and provide what they believe to be equitable forms of gratitude and admiration. Men tend to assign larger blocks of points for actions and consider them to be “Big Acts”, applying larger point denominations towards actions (e.g. 20, 40, 50 points). These larger acts therefore should constitute large degrees of appreciation and recognition. Women however apply one point per action and therefore distributes one point of appreciation for each action. You can see the problem that this causes. Whereas the man feels as though he deserves a large amount of positive reception of his action, the woman only awards only one point worth of appreciation. This causes the man to feel unappreciated, decreasing the amount of action he takes.
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·         Another aspect of how men and women differentiate is how they cope with stress. Women have a tendency to want to talk about a problem, although reaching a solution isn’t always the primary goal. Women try to talk the situation out to better understand what is going on. Men however tend to draw into themselves until they find a solution to the problem. Their goal is thinking through possible solutions to the problem and then choosing the correct one. You can see the problem that occurs here. Women attempt to grow closer and discuss the problem whereas men are pulling away, attempting to fix the problem themselves.
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These ideas are all general and though true for some is not necessarily true for all. Take my relationship for example, I like to deal with issues myself and figure solutions out before implementing anything. Thank god for my boyfriend because he has the tendency to want to talk the problem out and then find a solution. I guess the point I’m attempting to make is find someone to balance your personality and find harmony between you two. If you aren’t a good communicator, hopefully you found/find someone that is and can help open your communication channel. This applies to every other aspect of personality. Good luck and happy days!

1 comment:

  1. Rachel... men are definitely from Mars!! LOL!!
    Thank you so much for joining us in Thursdays Favorite Things Blog Hop! With His grace, wishing you peace and many blessings to you and yours… Carla

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