Even months after the wedding, we are still receiving
compliments on how fantastic, fun, and loving our wedding was. And while this
is how every bride hopes their day will be, unfortunately, the day’s normal
stress results in a less than magical day. So from one experienced and very
happy bride to all future and current brides, I would love to share some
wedding tips that, I believe, every bride should know to truly enjoy this day.
Don’t Sweat The Small
Stuff
There are so many things that could go wrong on this day. Is
the florist running late? Is your dress not fitting right? Did the videographer
show up half hung over, his tie backwards, and is currently laying his head
down on the dining table?
And yes….this all
happened to me! So what
did I do?
I hugged my anxious and worried grandmother-in-law and told
her it would be ok. If the flowers don’t make it, it’s not going to ruin the
wedding. Yes…the reception and wedding won’t be decorated, but even though the
flowers add to the wedding, they aren’t
the important elements of it. And I continued my day….
When my dress wasn’t zipping up correctly, we took this as a
photo opp to get some hilarious photos of me trying to hold in my chest while
my maid of honor and mom tried to zip me up. And I continued my day….
And when the videographer showed up half hung over, with his
tie on backgrounds, and barely paying attention to us? I laughed and talked with
my bridesmaid, ate dainty sandwiches, and...continued getting ready for my
wedding day.
Focus On The
Important Things
This includes your future hubby, your wedding party, and the
loving friends and family that are there to celebrate this day with you. Before
the wedding, I received so many tips
that I should enjoy my day….which sounded odd to me because why wouldn’t I?
They continued to remind me, enjoy your
day…because it will go by so fast! But I still didn’t get it.
And then I learned what they were talking about…and the
mistake they made during their wedding. While many people spend their wedding
day worrying that everything has to be exactly as planned, or exactly right, I
approached my wedding as a day to celebrate, make joy, and create memories. So
each moment, each smile, each hug, each dance….I lived in it. I didn’t worry
about what was going to happen next. I lived in each and every moment.
Smile From The Heart...Laugh From Your Gut
One thing that I absolutely loved about my wedding was that we were always laughing and smiling. The sound of our laughter would constantly resonate throughout the rooms, wherever we were, whatever we were doing. We took nothing too serious and found the humor and fun in every situation. When the pastor asked my husband to obey his wife, he looked to our guest and gave them a befuddled look. After I smooshed cake all over his face and he retaliated with an equally well placed cake smash, I jumped into his arms for a kiss to further smooth our cake face mess together. Every moment during this day should be filled with smiles that come from the heart and laughter that came from your gut.
And that, dear brides, is what allowed me to differ from the
advice constantly thrown my way and to both enjoy each and every moment,
without making the day feel stressed, frantic, and too fast.
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
―
Dalai Lama
I
wake up in bed, I stare at the sunlight...I ask myself what I'll be
wearing today and if it's going to be a good day or not. I have my on
and off days but today is the day where I need change. I've been
lingering on with the same situation over and over again that I haven't
done anything for myself... This is it I thought...This is when I'll
thinking of me and no one else. What makes me happy?
Is it shopping? Is it Yoga? Is it running? Or is it love? I love all of
those but as of now, I need to start thinking of loving myself first!
Self esteem needs self assurance. I know it's difficult comparing
yourself to someone else because wanting to be better feels good to the
ego, but accepting you're not shows pride.
This topic is all about change. Am I happy with myself? Life sometimes gets repetitive and routine starts getting boring...Do something different. Whether it's getting a new piercing, or buying a new dress, it's okay to show off once in a while. It's about excitement and having something different and refreshing. Don't be afraid to spend a little money on things you'll feel good about having. I haven't done anything for myself for the longest time but recently I wanted to get a hair do. I'm bored with my hair so I'm thinking of changing the color and cut. It's crazy how much hair can change a look.
Have a night with friends, whether it's girls night or a movie, whatever it is laugh more often. I know saying to forget about current problems is hard, but realize the laughter and joy all around! Happiness is a direction, not a place. If you can, get some sun!! Psychological fact: People who enjoy being out in the sun are more likely to be happier. Happier people are more likely to fall inlove, because their happiness makes other people happy.
Start thinking of all the good things in life and focus only on those. If stress ever comes to mind, it's healthy to write it down, tell a friend, do some activities, or even taking a nap!
Traveling is my favourite. I've imagined myself going to all these places because a getaway is needed for everyone! See the world, see their struggles, see their culture, see the different lives that people live and I guarantee that leaving a new destination is already a change. It's important to plan out your trip but don't forget to save a day to just relax....I think of laying in the sand and relaxing!
Good change is showing you're better off showing happiness than weakness. You may not realize, but people will see it in you and look at you as someone who knows their self worth, and as someone who has rewarded them self with whatever it is they've been through.
It Shines Through :)
