The Break

  

 
        Have you ever been in a relationship in where your boyfriend suggests going on a break? And then wondered why is he asking me for this break, what's going on? And then you've thought "yeah our relationship has been a little rocky at times but we shouldn't be going on a break, that's not working out our issues." Well unfortunately there are numerous factors why a guy would ask you to go on a break; some may be for selfish reasons while others may be to ponder on some thoughts. If he really needs a break and you're willing to give him one here are things you should do and consider.
 


Ground Rules: State what you both expect out of this break, how long are you guys planning on going on this break? (Make sure you both agree on the duration). You also want to make sure that just because you're going on a break it doesn't give him the right to go out and test the waters (same goes for you of course). If this is his excuse for wanting a break, say bye bye. You need a guy to treat you right and you as a woman need to give yourself your place!
 

 

Where Does Your Relationship Stand? Over the past little while how have you and your boyfriend gone about things? Have you guys been fair to each other? If you really love and care for one another but are having a hard time understanding each other's points of views, sometime apart is good. It will give you both a chance to focus on different things, to analyze yourself and then think on what you can do differently to strengthen your relationship.  The saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is actually very true when you have spent time away from your significant other.

Party it Up With Your Girls: Ladies go have fun with your girlfriends it's a necessity! Don't let your boyfriend part you from them.  It’s good to balance things out, that's the key to a good relationship. You don't want your boyfriend to be the only person you spend time with. In other words don’t make him the centre of your world, this could lead him to feel suffocated; boys will be boys and it’s in their nature to be afraid of commitment. Your girls on the other hand have always been there for you, so make sure you’re always there for them too! Make the time; balance, balance, balance.
 


        Okay ladies, these are just some tips on how to deal with a “break” and things you can do during the “break”. But truthfully many things can happen during this time. You may all of the sudden realize that you are happier without him and that you have been missing out on other things, or you may realize that he is your ideal guy and you want do whatever it takes to make your relationship work. In the end the break will help you see things in a way you would have never seen otherwise. It will reveal how you both feel about each other and whether the relationship is worth another shot.

Signs of Infidelity

 

                Okay ladies, let’s be honest, being committed to someone is not always easy. Relationships have their ups and downs. However there is a golden rule that should never be broken! And that’s faithfulness. Never ever forget it. Regardless of the situation or hardship your relationship may be going through; it is never okay to allow a guy to hurt you, just as it is not okay for you to play around and hurt him. Most of the time women are blinded by love and don’t realize that their man is playing them, or other times women know that their man is cheating but they just hope and pray that their man will soon come to his senses. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes a man realizes what he may loose and  does comes to his senses. But whether or not to give him another chance would be a complete personal decision. Now I know you're probably wondering how would I be able to tell if my boyfriend/husband is cheating on me? Here are a couple of eye openers.

Another woman’s things: Smelling another woman’s perfume on him, finding lipstick smothered on him or his shirts… or finding something feminine in his car that doesn’t belong to you (this one by far being the biggest eye opener!)

Surprising business trips or work activities: Yes I understand that sometimes business trips or work related activities do pop up, that’s normal. However having them pop up on a weekly basis seems kind of sketchy, especially when these occurrences happen within less than 24 hours.

Dressing to Impress: If all of the sudden your man starts dressing up, putting on lots of cologne every time he goes out (without you), he might just be trying to impress someone else! Let’s us not be fooled ladies. 

Commitment and resolution: It is always important to see how committed your man is to you and the relationship. If you feel like you’re the only one trying to work past your issues and he is not trying, it may be because he wants out (most likely because he has someone else.) Always keep in mind that it takes two people to make a relationship work and one to mess it all up. 

                Alright, these are just a couple of signs to be aware of if you feel like your man is not being completely honest or truthful to you. If you are currently going through this situation, stay strong, and make sure you put yourself first (in other words, state your ground; especially if you decide to give him another shot!) Now if you have an amazing man by your side make sure you show him how much you love him, sometimes reassurance is necessary.